Amazing Grace has always been a favorite hymn of mine, and that line “I was lost but now am found, was blind, but now I see” fits into my own redemption story.

Maybe you can see yourself in this tale of the downfall of the perfectionist, professional mom.

Learning to be kind to myself was such a revelation! 

I have long understood, in an intellectual sense, the benefits of treating myself with kindness and respect.  I was preaching these concepts to my therapy clients on a daily basis.  But through all my academic training, my clinical “objectivity” and, of course, my perfectionist personality style, I had become very stuck in my head.  

I want to talk to you about the old stuck pattern of feeling invisible:  I am not seen, not heard, and not important.  A vast majority of midlife women suffer from this negative core belief, this invisible sense of self.

So, why is it so easy to show up for others and so hard to show up for ourselves? 

I have been writing about the 5,000-year-old program of Invisibility and how that programming shows up in our day-to-day habits and behavior…giving freely to others while being invisible to ourselves.

We can become so stuck in these patterns, that we learn to put our attention first on others, disappearing almost entirely from ourselves.

How can we possibly live our best life, how can we possibly learn to love and honor ourselves, when stuck in this pattern of invisibility? 

Wisdom in formation...Have a nice day!

Wisdom in formation...Have a nice day!

Wisdom in formation...Have a nice day!